Do you need someone to talk to ? Do you need to be listened ? Don't hesitate, send me a message at imthereforyou@live.ca and I will answer you as soon as possible :) Here's a message that I received a long time ago. I hope that it can help some of you who have the same problem :)

''Hi,

I have a lot of issues that I'm kind of ashamed of, and I don't think I can tell someone I know, or a therapist or someone. If you could be someone I can just talk to about this stuff, just for a little bit, I would be eternally grateful.

 

I'm not skinny, and I never feel pretty, ever. I hate the way I look, my, legs, thighs, butt, chest, stomach, nose, knees - everything just revolts me. I'm getting to the point where I just break down crying if I look in the mirror too long. I never wear shorts or short sleeves, I'm sick of hating everything about me and feeling this way. I just feel like I'm in a deep dark hole and there's this feeling, I can't describe it, just weighing down on me all the time. I'm constantly comparing myself to other girls and everyone else just seems so much prettier than me, it just makes me want to yell and scream and cry out what did I ever do to deserve this body and these feelings. I have no-one I can talk to about it. My sister says she is fat but she is way skinnier than me and prettier than me and she fucking knows it, too. My friends always look to me as the shoulder to cry on, and I'm always there for them, but they can't be there for me. I don't want them to be. My family and friends shouldn't have to deal with my problems - I don't want to burden them, destroy their perfect worlds. They don't know half of the things I've done to myself because of these feelings. I'm sick of feeling this way and I can't get any help. I don't know what to do, I hate my body and I'm sick and tired and fucking done with everything. I feel like I'll never be worth anything looking like this. Sorry to burden you. I'm so sorry.''

 

Hey :),

First of all, don't be sorry. You really really don't burden me. Trust me.

A few years ago, I felt exactly like you. I was always comparing myself to other girls and I always found something better than me in every girls that I saw. I was constantly daydreaming of being someone else, and not only for their appearance, for their life, their friends, their boyfriend... everything. I know how you feel sweetie, that's not easy. You're always under pressure and now you suffocate... I understand and you're not alone, believe me. I don't know how old you are, but it happens to everyone in adolescence, especially to girls. Believe me, every girl has felt not enough beautiful or inferior to other girls. Even those that you find really prettier than you... And I'm sure that they also envy something about you. Do you know why? Because there is no definition of beauty and our perception of beauty always change. And we are always more severe on ourselves...

There is no magic potion to improve our self-esteem... Nothing can fix it except time. But you won't have this problem forever, trust me. I know it's easier said than done, but you have to accept yourself and tell you that you can't be someone else and that there are things that we just can't change... You have to understand that your unique and special in your own way.

And someday, someone will show you how beautiful you are and how he loves you the way you are. That day will come, I promise.

I hope I helped you a little bit... :)
Stay strong !

♥