Showing posts with label break up. Show all posts
Showing posts with label break up. Show all posts
Sunday, October 12, 2014
Thursday, May 29, 2014
THE GIRL BEHIND THIS BLOG #1
I don't talk about this a lot. I guess I have some difficulties to put my thoughts into words. And none of you, my readers, know about this. But for some reasons, I think I should tell you.
You may think I'm always happy, that there is nothing wrong with my life, that everything is always perfect in my life because I always post positive quotes and pictures. But that's not true; I choose to be happy. And it works.
I have problems, fights, pain, like everybody, I'm human. I just choose to see the positive things in everything.
It's not always easy. Sometimes you live a difficult period when you only think about this bad thing that just happened to you.
So, I was with this boy for one year. He was my first boyfriend. It wasn't a ridiculous love like some teenagers of our age have; we were truly in love. We were mature, serious. It wasn't always easy, in fact, we fought a lot. But we always had the maturity to forgive and to move on. It was made to last.
In September, we started college at two different schools. We were really busy with school, job and leisure. It was difficult to see each other more than once a week.
We put a lot of energy to make our relationship work even if it was tougher.
But quickly, I noticed that he didn't want to make it work as much as me. I was the only one who made efforts to keep seeing and talking to each other, and to stay a strong couple.
Despite my efforts, he broke up with me in november.
I just couldn't accept it. I kept telling myself that he still loved me, that he was only confused about this change. I kept telling myself that he was going to change his mind, that he was going to come back.
I couldn't imagine it wasn't going to happen. He was the perfect person for me, the right person for me. Nobody was good enough for me except him. I thought I would never fall in love again, that nobody could love me as much as he did, that no other relationship could work as well as ours. In my head, it was only him.
I didn't talk to him for almost one month. I wanted to leave him some time, to let him think. I thought he was going to talk to me and tell me he made an error soon, but it did not happen.
I told him before Christmas that I wanted to be friend with him, that even if I couldn't have him as a boyfriend, I wanted him as a friend, because he was important for me.
He didn't have the same opinion as me. He didn't want to be friend with me, he thought it wasn't a good idea.
I was devastated. My plan didn't work. He wasn't going to talk to me, to tell me he was sorry, to tell me he loved me as much as I loved him.
I tried to talk to him several times, but he wasn't interested. I talked to him at Christmas, New Year's Eve, at his birthday... Nothing worked.
He was my first thought when I woke up. I thought of him everyday. I missed him everyday. He was the reason I cried almost everyday. He was the only thing that really mattered to me.
One morning, I just didn't think about him when I woke up. One day, I just didn't think about him at all. One week, I just didn't cry at all. One month, I just didn't care about him at all.
Without any reason, I just stopped loving him. It was over. Like this.
It was difficult, but I overcame this. Everybody can do it. Even you.
You know, it's a break up, it's normal to be sad and to cry, and to think that it will never be okay like it used to. But believe me, your heart won't be broken forever.
Today, I have a new boyfriend since 2 months and I have never been so good and happy with someone, even with my ex. And right now, he's the one who's sad.
You may think I'm always happy, that there is nothing wrong with my life, that everything is always perfect in my life because I always post positive quotes and pictures. But that's not true; I choose to be happy. And it works.
I have problems, fights, pain, like everybody, I'm human. I just choose to see the positive things in everything.
It's not always easy. Sometimes you live a difficult period when you only think about this bad thing that just happened to you.
So, I was with this boy for one year. He was my first boyfriend. It wasn't a ridiculous love like some teenagers of our age have; we were truly in love. We were mature, serious. It wasn't always easy, in fact, we fought a lot. But we always had the maturity to forgive and to move on. It was made to last.
In September, we started college at two different schools. We were really busy with school, job and leisure. It was difficult to see each other more than once a week.
We put a lot of energy to make our relationship work even if it was tougher.
But quickly, I noticed that he didn't want to make it work as much as me. I was the only one who made efforts to keep seeing and talking to each other, and to stay a strong couple.
Despite my efforts, he broke up with me in november.
I just couldn't accept it. I kept telling myself that he still loved me, that he was only confused about this change. I kept telling myself that he was going to change his mind, that he was going to come back.
I couldn't imagine it wasn't going to happen. He was the perfect person for me, the right person for me. Nobody was good enough for me except him. I thought I would never fall in love again, that nobody could love me as much as he did, that no other relationship could work as well as ours. In my head, it was only him.
I didn't talk to him for almost one month. I wanted to leave him some time, to let him think. I thought he was going to talk to me and tell me he made an error soon, but it did not happen.
I told him before Christmas that I wanted to be friend with him, that even if I couldn't have him as a boyfriend, I wanted him as a friend, because he was important for me.
He didn't have the same opinion as me. He didn't want to be friend with me, he thought it wasn't a good idea.
I was devastated. My plan didn't work. He wasn't going to talk to me, to tell me he was sorry, to tell me he loved me as much as I loved him.
I tried to talk to him several times, but he wasn't interested. I talked to him at Christmas, New Year's Eve, at his birthday... Nothing worked.
He was my first thought when I woke up. I thought of him everyday. I missed him everyday. He was the reason I cried almost everyday. He was the only thing that really mattered to me.
One morning, I just didn't think about him when I woke up. One day, I just didn't think about him at all. One week, I just didn't cry at all. One month, I just didn't care about him at all.
Without any reason, I just stopped loving him. It was over. Like this.
It was difficult, but I overcame this. Everybody can do it. Even you.
You know, it's a break up, it's normal to be sad and to cry, and to think that it will never be okay like it used to. But believe me, your heart won't be broken forever.
Today, I have a new boyfriend since 2 months and I have never been so good and happy with someone, even with my ex. And right now, he's the one who's sad.
Friday, March 29, 2013
Wednesday, March 27, 2013
''You’re single because you’re single. It’s not because you texted too much or too little or waited 33 minutes to respond because he took 23. It’s not because you met up with your ex that night at 5 a.m. that no one knows about, or because you kissed another boy after a date with a loser.
You’re not single because you spit food on that date or tripped coming out the the movie theatre. You’re not single because you hurt your first boyfriend really badly when you were 15 or because you have yet, to this day, to apologize. It’s not because you were secretly jealous when your friend got a boyfriend or that a guy you dated for two months now has a really cute girlfriend and looks really happy. And you’re happy for him. But still ill that he found someone before you.
You’re not single because you slept with your ex boyfriend. You’re not single because half the world found out when you didn’t even want to remember it yourself. You’re not single because you think the guy your friend wants to hook you up with is ugly or not tall enough. It’s not because you’re not willing to put up with someone who doesn’t brush their teeth on a regular basis.
You’re not single because your standards are too high. Good for you for having standards. It’s not because you didn’t like that really, really good guy who wanted to take you on a date and you just weren’t feeling it. And it’s not because you like to wear pajama pants as soon as you get home and wash all the makeup off your face. You’re not single because you didn’t learn enough from the past or would rather chill on a Friday night with your blanket and a cold beer than shower, get ready, and go out. You’re not single because something is wrong with you.
You are single because you are single. It’s really as simple as that. You haven’t made the connection with another heart yet. You can get dolled up, dress cute, cut your hair, dye your hair, tweeze your eyebrows, put on lipstick and you may still. be. single. You can go out to a bar hoping to meet the love of your life and not find a damn one in the place attractive. And it’s going to remain that way until it’s time for you to find one. Stop hoping for it. Start living the life that you do have instead of wishing for things that you don’t have. There will come a time you’ll meet a person and you’ll have to give up some of this single freedom you currently have. Start being more thankful. Start doing that now.''
You’re not single because you spit food on that date or tripped coming out the the movie theatre. You’re not single because you hurt your first boyfriend really badly when you were 15 or because you have yet, to this day, to apologize. It’s not because you were secretly jealous when your friend got a boyfriend or that a guy you dated for two months now has a really cute girlfriend and looks really happy. And you’re happy for him. But still ill that he found someone before you.
You’re not single because you slept with your ex boyfriend. You’re not single because half the world found out when you didn’t even want to remember it yourself. You’re not single because you think the guy your friend wants to hook you up with is ugly or not tall enough. It’s not because you’re not willing to put up with someone who doesn’t brush their teeth on a regular basis.
You’re not single because your standards are too high. Good for you for having standards. It’s not because you didn’t like that really, really good guy who wanted to take you on a date and you just weren’t feeling it. And it’s not because you like to wear pajama pants as soon as you get home and wash all the makeup off your face. You’re not single because you didn’t learn enough from the past or would rather chill on a Friday night with your blanket and a cold beer than shower, get ready, and go out. You’re not single because something is wrong with you.
You are single because you are single. It’s really as simple as that. You haven’t made the connection with another heart yet. You can get dolled up, dress cute, cut your hair, dye your hair, tweeze your eyebrows, put on lipstick and you may still. be. single. You can go out to a bar hoping to meet the love of your life and not find a damn one in the place attractive. And it’s going to remain that way until it’s time for you to find one. Stop hoping for it. Start living the life that you do have instead of wishing for things that you don’t have. There will come a time you’ll meet a person and you’ll have to give up some of this single freedom you currently have. Start being more thankful. Start doing that now.''
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